We all have our enemies; people who enjoy causing us pain and misery. Sometimes an enemy’s development is due to certain differences in characters and events. Other times, some people end up hating you for no apparent reason.
Regardless of how you got this enemy, as opposed to the fire-on-fire paradigm, consider the following reasons and discover why you really should appreciate your enemies. This article will show you not only how not to be upset by your enemies, but also how to really encourage them.
Read on to learn the secret.
1. It is a practical lesson in anger management.
To be honest, your enemies are the best people to help you understand your sense of anger management. When it may be true that your enemies have a way of bringing out the worst in you regarding anger, it is also true that they can help you on your mission to deal with it. You really can’t get mad at someone you love and it’s only at that moment when you really get mad that you learn to handle it.
Anger management is most effective when it is in practice and not in theory.
Your enemies are like the therapists you need, but they don’t really want them. To the extent that you want to hate them, they offer you the opportunity to control your anger impulse.
2. It is an opportunity for healthy competition.
You may not know it, but your enemies become great rivals, as they help to exploit the competitor in you (sometimes, you may not even know or know this competitive side until you meet an opponent). Get the right motivation to compete and this can help you achieve victory.
However, in doing so, it is also essential that you remember not to become a worse version of yourself while competing. Working against an opponent is tricky and you need to make sure that you don’t hurt yourself or your morale in the process. Healthy competition is all it takes to get out of it.
3. Your negative comments can help you take a turn
It is true that your enemies never have much to say about you. However, to the extent that they can speak of a place of hatred, there may be some truth in what they say.
That is, every time you hear something bad or bad from an enemy, you may want to go back and evaluate yourself. There is a possibility that what this enemy is saying is true and that addressing this fact is an important step in helping him become a better person overall. This is another testament to the fact that enemies can be therapists in their own way.
4. Enemies can also be powerful allies
Loving your enemies can also mean making an effort to interact and make peace with them. In the end, if you are able to establish common ground and work things out, you will have managed to make another friend. And who doesn’t need friends?
This can also help you work with people for the long term. You can hone your interpersonal skills and this can be a great asset to your ledger.
5. It gives you the opportunity to achieve positivity
In a crowd of negativity, a speck of positivity always seems to find its way.
Sometimes knowing that you have enemies will also help you focus on the many positives and good things in your life. Many times we neglect what really matters in life. This may be because we care excessively about the enemies we have.
However, it is also possible that this recognition will push you back and appreciate the sticky things (and the people around you).
6. There may be only one misunderstanding
Sometimes the reason you have an enemy can be very harmless. You may not have known the cause of this fractured relationship and your enemy will help you complete the picture.
Simply approaching them will help you understand the reason for the fracture. This, in turn, can help you work to heal your relationship in the future. Misunderstandings happen and you need to be able to avoid them.
7. You will also learn to appreciate love.
A constant reminder that there are enemies will also help you not to take your loved ones for granted. Love and hate are two opposing emotions, and one may momentarily offer the other.
However, although you will always have enemies, there will always be people who will love you. These people should be appreciated for what they do for you. Don’t let the hatred your enemies throw at you take the place of that.